Wendy St. Germain posted on February 08, 2010 18:05
This is the time to fall in love with your self; if you already are, then you can re-affirm it. This Valentine’s Day pay particular attention to how you feel about you, not just your appearance, wardrobe or other possessions, but you. Remember how you were at age four, ten, sixteen, twenty-one and capture the feelings you had then, before you created the attitudes you have now. By doing this you will be able to identify more easily the true essence of who you are. There is a constant element that is always there, always present, beyond the knowledge that you are you, there is a feeling and that feeling is the essential you.
The Love you have for yourself is the love you have to give others, no more and no less, so do not criticize who you are, because you are perfect. Even if you change, you had to be where you are now to get where you are going. We all have shadow aspects of our self, parts of us that perhaps do not measure up to the standard we believe we should be, but do not dislike these parts of yourself. They are only aspects that need Love from you and when you exhibit certain behavior it is these parts of you, reminding you that they require your attention and care. So maybe you said something hurtful about someone behind their back; do not deny it happened and pretend that you didn’t do it. Instead, forgive yourself and embrace that part of you that behaved undesirably. Imagine that part of you had a form and wrap your arms around it and give it Love. Tell that part of you that you will work with it to be more loving.
Your action, of speaking negatively towards another occurred so that you would take notice. It had a purpose and you can turn that purpose and even the action itself from into a positive one. So if you hadn’t made the remark that you did, you wouldn’t have realized you need to do some work and the issue would have remained buried. Everything happens for a reason. I know you have heard that many times and there are some who do not believe it is true. I know it is true and you will if you look deeply into the chain of events that occur in your daily life and in the world. Things always work out well if you see them in that light. Even when we lose people we love, life is unfolding the way it is meant to.
This doesn’t mean that we do not have free will or that we are fated or doomed to certain outcomes. No, it means that whatever decisions we make or actions we take determine the new reality that results from them. So if you fall in Love with yourself continuously, over and over, you are building a reality that nurtures loving yourself. This includes everything in your life from the people you know, your job and your body. It’s not a difficult thing, we see people fall in love all the time, in movies, books and in real life, but we don’t hear about people falling in love with themselves. We cannot expect others to give us this Love, it has to come from within and it has to come first and before anything else. So this Sunday, the day set aside for Love, give some to you, the most important person in your life.